Was recently listening to an episode of the podcast “Give It To Me Straight”, basically a Q&A about relationships. One particular question came in (and I’ll summarize because it’s a lengthy one):
This man and woman have been dating since middle school, and they’re now 24. And they’re thinking about marriage.
Sometimes I feel as though I’m dating a boy rather than a man. Growing up, my dad was a fix-it kind of guy, whether it be house-related, car, or yard work. But my boyfriend can barely build a damn bookshelf. I feel as if sometimes I’m the man in the relationship in those aspects…I was raised to be independent and do things myself, but I wish I could let my feminine side out with him…I get nervous about getting married to a man like this because I’m not sure he can provide for me in ways that i would like. Being togetherer forever is one thing, but in the back of my head, I just can’t shake this feeling that someone else is out there to give me that princess treatment. I was not spoiled as a child growing up, but it would nice to have to feel as if I need to do everything myself. Any advice or thoughts on another way to bring this up?
I have thoughts, and I’ll enumerate them in order of the severity of said thoughts:
- First, fuck you.
- Marriage is a partnership, and should be treated as such.
- You kind of do sound like you were spoiled.
- When did the ability to “build a bookcase” become the sign of masculinity?
- Because your boyfriend can’t build a bookcase, you’re not letting your feminine side out? That sounds like a deeper issue that might need to be addressed first.
- You don’t have to marry this man. If you need to be “princessed”, go find someone else.
- You might, just might, have some daddy issues.
- Lastly, fuck you.
In the times we all live in right now, I’m so glad I’m married (and have been for a while). This kind of shit would drive me up the wall.
